The writings and articles of Becoming Human. Here are the thoughts, ideas, and practices to help us understand the world so that we can better live in it.
Verbal rhetoric such as public speaking is useful but has limitations. This communication is great for goals and inspiration but does not produce behavioral changes. This is the myth of transformative information.
Transformative communication requires more than speaking. Why do we prefer verbal rhetoric, what culture is produced as a result, and what else should we try to do?
Read MoreObservations on the sociological landscape of parenting, what makes us feel guilty as parents, and why we have kids in the first place.
Read MoreParenting observations on what makes us think we are bad parents and why we should be okay with being good enough.
Read MoreRural places are declining. Why are rural communities desolate, backward, and useless? What should the urban-rural relationship look like?
Read MoreThe religious tendency of navigating a complicated world according to Emile Durkheim
Read MoreWhat causes loneliness? Is it a natural part of being human? Can we overcome loneliness? Dealing with loneliness offers a constructive approach to being alive.
Read MoreFinding the benefits of loneliness in a very lonely world.
Read MoreDo things depreciate over time or gain value over time? The balance between tradition and progress shouldn’t be one-sided. Growth and change should be informed by roots and history.
Read MoreA suggestion for roots, growth, and moving forward.
Read MoreCentered-Set parenting and family system leadership.
Should you have rules for your kids or should you let them do whatever they want? While those two extremes don’t convey all of the available options, what should a parent/child relationship be like? What does that require of parents? And how will that affect kids?
Taking cues from leadership techniques, a modern perspective of raising children involves examining the three overall approaches to parenting, centered versus bounded set philosophy, and intrinsic motivation.
Read MoreBelonging and the four ingredients of community — from Emile Durkheim’s study of suicide.
Read MoreThe future will be enacted in the present by people who morbidly understand but also effectively use the gift of memory.
Read MoreMemory is complicated, transformative information is a myth, and we naturally resist change
Memory requires information to be encoded and changing norms requires overcoming entrenched habits. These two barriers can be mastered with an intentional process that moves our ideas from our heads to our hands.
Read MoreOur culture is one of transience. What does it mean to belong somewhere? What does it mean to have a place? Similar to marriage, here's how I've found belonging.
Read MoreTwo unsatisfactory approaches to society are (1) blind acceptance of how things are and (2) overt verdicts on society’s moral status as a whole.
Neither pays attention to the process of how norms came to be nor the variety of outcomes they produce. The better approach is to notice what society creates and what it might be at the expense of.
Read MoreDealing with the loss of something that is still there. Sometimes physical death is easier than existential death. The home I grew up in and the family I was born into no longer exists. I'm still learning how to mourn that death.
Read MoreThe phenomenon of proximity. We are mean to the people we love because proximity reveals everything, we expect too much from our partners, we feel safe with the people we love, and antagonism is a means of control.
Read MoreLessons on labor and the futile attempt to rewire society’s economics toward good, meaningful work.
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