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July 02, 2021

The Key Ingredient to an Open, Curious Mindset

July 02, 2021/ Tyler Kleeberger
The Key Ingredient to an Open, Curious Mindset

A practice to increase your ability to learn - empathy allows us to see more of the world than we currently do. Acknowledge your limitations, pay attention, attribution, and accommodation.

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July 02, 2021/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
Perspective, Psychology
June 24, 2021

Using Empathy in Conflict Resolution

June 24, 2021/ Tyler Kleeberger
Using Empathy in Conflict Resolution

The best way to turn a disagreement into a constructive possibility.

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June 24, 2021/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self, Relationships
Psychology, Perspective
June 24, 2021

Why We Defend Our Perspectives

June 24, 2021/ Tyler Kleeberger
Why We Defend Our Perspectives

It’s about more than being right — it’s about survival.

The philosophy of desire, intellectual value systems, and resisting change.

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June 24, 2021/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
Perspective, Philosophy
February 26, 2019

[A Poem On Perspective, Our Cultural Climate, & The Human Propensity For Ignorance]

February 26, 2019/ Tyler Kleeberger
[A Poem On Perspective, Our Cultural Climate, & The Human Propensity For Ignorance]

Live In Your Small World — You Won’t Be Happy That You Do

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February 26, 2019/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self, Society
Perspective
February 11, 2019

How To Use Empathy For Better Communication

February 11, 2019/ Tyler Kleeberger
How To Use Empathy For Better Communication

A Comprehensive Communication Principle For Anyone Who Leads, Speaks, Writes, or Has a Relationship With Another Human Being

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February 11, 2019/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self, Relationships, Communities
Perspective, Empathy
March 23, 2018

Mapmaking Vs. Arguing - [A Suggested Method For Disagreeing Well]

March 23, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger
Mapmaking Vs. Arguing - [A Suggested Method For Disagreeing Well]

Stop Disagreeing - Do This Instead

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March 23, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Relationships, Society
Perspective, Communication
March 09, 2018

Ever Have a Relationship Change? There's a Reason Why - [The Evolution of Relationships]

March 09, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger
Ever Have a Relationship Change? There's a Reason Why - [The Evolution of Relationships]

Our relationships don't stay the same. This usually causes frustration...but it shouldn't

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March 09, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Relationships, Self
Communication, Change, Perspective
March 02, 2018

[How We Change] - Why Change?

March 02, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger
[How We Change] - Why Change?

Why should we change in the first place? And where should it take us?

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March 02, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self, Society
How We Change, Change, Metanarrative, Perspective
February 23, 2018

Let's Talk About Your Perspective - [What Is It & Can It Change?]

February 23, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger
Let's Talk About Your Perspective - [What Is It & Can It Change?]

The One Requirement For Changing Your Perspective

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February 23, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Relationships, Self, Society
Perspective, Change
February 16, 2018

How To Change Other People - [Tigers, Critiques, & Prophecy]

February 16, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger
How To Change Other People - [Tigers, Critiques, & Prophecy]

[8 minute read] - We often want to change other people - so what is the healthiest way to do so?

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February 16, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Communities, Relationships, Self
How We Change, Change, Perspective, Communication
January 26, 2018

[How We Change] - Intentional Vs. Drift

January 26, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger
[How We Change] - Intentional Vs. Drift

You are going to change - but to change into where you want to go, it requires this:

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January 26, 2018/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
How We Change, Change, Perspective
December 29, 2017

[How We Change] - Your Triune Brain is Your Greatest Enemy

December 29, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
[How We Change] - Your Triune Brain is Your Greatest Enemy

There is a basic biological reason that we don't want to change. 

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December 29, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
How We Change, Change, Perspective
December 15, 2017

[How We Change] - Three Possibilities...But Usually One

December 15, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
[How We Change] - Three Possibilities...But Usually One

Whatever you want to change, it could happen any of these three ways.
But it will most likely be the last one - so let's map out how that works. 

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December 15, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
How We Change, Change, Perspective
December 08, 2017

[How We Change] - Change is Hard + It Happens Slowly

December 08, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
[How We Change] - Change is Hard + It Happens Slowly

A parable on how change works - it's a process. 

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December 08, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
How We Change, Change, Perspective
November 24, 2017

[How We Change] - Can We Change?

November 24, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
[How We Change] - Can We Change?

Before we talk about "How We Change", we must find out if it's even possible. 

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November 24, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
How We Change, Perspective, Change
November 17, 2017

Why We Disagree - [The Larger Reason]

November 17, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
Why We Disagree - [The Larger Reason]

Why we might reach different conclusions with all the same data.

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November 17, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Relationships, Society
Perspective, Communication
November 10, 2017

The Greatest Knight - [You Can't Be Your Own Hype Man]

November 10, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
The Greatest Knight - [You Can't Be Your Own Hype Man]

How do you talk about yourself? Because how others proclaim you is much more impactful. 

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November 10, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
Perspective, Creating
October 30, 2017

Two Thoughts On Boredom - [And Why We Need You Not To Be]

October 30, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
Two Thoughts On Boredom  -  [And Why We Need You Not To Be]

Being bored is a relatively new idea...here's what we ought to do about it.

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October 30, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self, Society
Perspective, Creating
October 16, 2017

The Rabbi From Krakow - [starting from your humanity]

October 16, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
The Rabbi From Krakow - [starting from your humanity]

What if that which you are looking for has been right under your feet the entire time?

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October 16, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Self
Perspective
September 25, 2017

Explore the common - [A Lesson on Undisguising the World]

September 25, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger
Explore the common - [A Lesson on Undisguising the World]

How to see everything as "important" and able to teach us. 

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September 25, 2017/ Tyler Kleeberger/
Relationships, Ecosystem, Society
Perspective, Learning, Creating
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